The first question that Fr. Murray asks in the book is how we can talk to someone who is undergoing great affliction, or whether we can really have anything to say to them at all. We are all familiar with this situation. Some person whom we care about is going through some terrible thing, and they seem to be in another place that we can't reach. Anything we think of to say sounds inadequate. I'm not sure how much of an answer this book gives. For one thing, every person and every situation is so different. The exact thing one person needs could be the very thing that upsets someone else.
Part One of the book, Impossible Words is subtitled Essays on affliction. The first essay is The fourth friend: Poetry in a time of affliction. Fr. Murray talks about how after 9/11 poems began to appear all over New York City. He quotes the New York Times:
In the weeks since the terrorist attacks, people have been consoling themselves--and one another--in an almost unprecedented manner. Almost immediately after the event, improvised memorials often conceived around poems sprang up all over the city, in store windows, at bus stops, in Washington Square Park, Brooklyn Heights and elsewhere. And poems flew through cyberspace across the country in e-mails from friend to friend.He calls poetry the fourth friend after Elihu, who after Job's three friends have spoken, appears to defend God to Job and his comforters. Fr. Murray references Fr. Victor White, O. P., who calls Elihu, "something of an intuitive, a poet." But then asks, "But should the poet, in a time affliction presume to speak at all? . . . how, confronted by the enormous affliction of an individual or of a people, can the words of a poet be said to bring consolation?"
In the rest of this section, Fr. Murray gives examples of poetry written both by and to people who are in great affliction. The most beautiful example, though, is about the poetry of music. He quotes a letter that Mendelssohn wrote to Handel:
She [Dorothea] told me that, when she lost her last child, Beethoven was at first unable to come to her house any more. Finally, he invited her to come to him, and when she came he sat at the piano and merely said: 'We will now converse in music,' and played for over an hour and, as she expressed it, 'He said everything to me, and also finally gave me consolation.'The remainder of Part One contains reflections on affliction in sickness and in prison, and on the martyrs of the last 100 years. He then writes about his friend Sister Joan and the conversations they had after she was diagnosed with an incurable blood disorder that took her life two months later.
Part Two, The dark hours; Songs for the afflicted is a collection of poems written by Fr. Murray. There is a great deal of poetry that I really love, and still more that I like quite a bit, and I recognize it as good poetry. However, I don't consider myself a really good judge of poetry, and I might not always be able to see that a poem is good. That said, I do not think that much of this is really poetry. I'm not saying there is no merit to what Fr. Murray writes, but that it is more like prose formatted like poetry. But, maybe I am wrong. Here a couple of the ones that I like.
The Cry
When I awoke, the room was dark
and the rain was beating
against the window pane,
it was the room that faces out to sea,
the room in which I was born.
And from my bed I thought I saw
the dark curtains lifting
and moving, and thought I heard
far out at sea
a lone seabird crying in the storm.
But, as I listened, there leaned
against my heart
- and it made me tremble - the memory
of that other dream,
the same dream, that other night.
And I thought to myself: Is it
possible, then, I am
not awake at all, and the rain
is not now beating
against the window pane,
and there is no seabird crying
in the storm
but that instead, once
more, this stark, isolated cry
is, perhaps, my own?
A Reading
The text opens like a riverPart Three, The scars of God: Meditations on the seven last words is, as it says meditations on the seven last "words" of Jesus from the cross. If you are not familiar with this terminology, these are not just seven solitary words, but sentences that Jesus said, or prayed, as He was dying.
in full spate. Or it's like a window
opening with a sudden gust of wind.
And it's as if an archangel
had entered the room. And everybody
has to stop what they're doing.
And the air is a river of divine words.
And all of a sudden you see
- and with a start -
that an archangel has entered,
and your heart is in your mouth,
And you feel you are drowning
in a river of divine words, and hear
yourself saying, over and over,
'How can this be?'
I did not read through these all at once, but prayed with one each day for seven days. Some of them were helpful, and some were not, and maybe I don't really know which was which. That's a very personal thing, and you might benefit from some that I didn't and vice versa.
My thoughts and feelings about this book are very mixed. When I first read part of the book (I'm not sure I even finished Part One.) I really liked it. Then, it got put aside somehow, and when I came back to it a couple of weeks ago, I didn't like it much at all. Only parts seemed good to me. This probably says more about me than about the book, but maybe it also had something to do with having just heard Father speak, and being more in tune with the way he thinks and expresses himself. If you would like to see for yourself, I'd be glad to give you the book.
AMDG




